Learning The Language

A dimly lit room, soft music, a slow and soft dance in the center of that room..  A romantic moment-  a man who wants this woman; a woman who desires this man.  All of the elements are ripe-  a stare into one another's eyes, a whisper and a silence.  This is what romance is!  Love and romance is like a dance between two people.  Two people embracing one another exclusive to any other people, place, time, circumstance in the world.  Any outside thought for any length of time will throw the whole dance off, and maybe stop the music. 

The dance steps are important, yes.. but the essential persons involved are the most important!  He is the most important to her; she is the most important to him and all time stops for that romance; that romantic moment.. and then the music begins to play endlessly, lovingly, softly, dimly, simply.  This is love! 

Never Allowing The Dream To Escape

Never allowing the dream to escape, is all about learning the language.. just like any specialty in life, dating has it's own terminology and language.   Well, honestly, love and romance has it's own language too.  It's a language that is both artistic like pros and poetry, and a language of the body, a language of body movement, and a language of photographic technique.. especially these days of the internet when photography is so very important. 

The very thing that makes an artist so desirable, is sytle.. it's whole package style.  Some of us have to work at refining our style and to some, it comes more naturally.  For us who need to develop and refine our style, we have to learn and rethink our position in life.  Some of the things we say and do are habitual and they came our way just because we adopted them as our own having learned them by just watching or by ignoring.. either way.

Honestly, if I had a voice to sing, and I wanted a Fantasy Moves Date, I'd make a video of my own.. a realistic video and I'd chose a song that best represented my inward feelings, and sing it on that video to the man I was asking for a date.. I'd probably pause in the video and talk to him a little.. but it would be my first choice as an approach.  At the end of the video, I'd find a way to hand him a rose that made it look like I was both sexy, sensual, and down to earth, touchable, and approachable.  But, I don't sing, I have no talent in that area..   I'd say, I have never seen anyone do this when wanting a date and asking for one..  but it is a type of language style, which is why I do add so many videos to my romance websites..

Time, To Dream

So many professional counselors, over the years, have written volums on getting in touch with our inner child, our inner self, etc.  Maybe it's good, maybe it's right, maybe it's not, I'm not a counselor- so I'll leave that decision in your capable hands as an audience on Fantasy Moves Dating, however, I do say this and understand the language.. we all have hidden dreams, aspirations, goals, thoughts and desires that no one, including ourselves, allows to surface.  And we squelch them out of fear.  Fear of being misunderstood.  Fear of being critiqued by others, fear of our own inability to draw on them and feed on them and/or to feed them and allow them to grow up and become mature in us.. This much I do know.

Just like politics and political correctness, so too is our love life.. there seems to be a romance correctness developing and it's developing fast over the internet.  If not careful, we can get pulled in once again- pulled in to a sort of internet peer pressure to conform-   to be like the crowd, or like the latest fad, or like the latest style.. it's always been the case.  People who follow, end up the worst for it, not people who stay above water and develop as human nature has intended..

Honestly, in my opinion, this is a good time to recognize this very basic characteristic of all of us humans, and refuse to go there any longer.  Refuse to allow those things we once believed to be correct, to ball and chain us again and again and again.  It's freedom time.  Time to swing open the gates of confinement so to say, and look fresh at our own approach to love, romance, and even our future as we love and dream and build on that dream of love..

So, what is the language of love and romance?

To begin with, this language is NOT the same as filling out a personal resume' of About Me.. like so many ads I find on the interent.   This language is about your lover and you.. what you are and who you are together.. what's laying inside of your lover that brought you to ask for this date is important. 

If and when you don't have a particular lover in mind, and you or I place an ad for a date.. starting out with this resume' mind set is the first turn off and click off I can think of..  combine that with a bad photo, and bingo.. we've set our selves up for failure..

This language is first the photos.. I call them "My Photo Logs".. .. it's about still life comeing at the reader in such a way as my uniqueness shows forth immediately...   Since Fantasy Moves Dating is my quest for romance, I have found myself wanting to spend money in different ways too.. like hiring a photographer for an afternoon just to get my pictures right for me.. and right for romance.  It's fun, exilerating, exciting, and very scary.. but it's a new kind of fear.. it's anticipation at it's best. 

Next, I found myslef wanting to wear a whole new look and feel in my wardrobe.  My shoes are now heels, black stockings, and shinny sandles.  I've gone for more of a sheen and shine in my blouses, and I've moved from plain jeans to leggins and ankle-fitting pants that support wearing heels very well.. It's a whole new and exciting feel for me, and it is an exuberant feeling when I go out and about.. and get the looks I've always wanted from men or the male side of life.

I found that I've changed my purse style,  and by that, my way of walking with a purse and getting in and out of my purse... I've added a scarf to the side of my purse now also.. it's all so feminine.. and it's all so me.

The looks that generate between the men in my society now seem different and in return, I'm finding myself responding differently..  everday is a new beginning now.. ever venture outside has a new effect on those around me, including women who like the look I'm sporting these days.  I've always worn short hair, my hair is now just below my shoulder and I've allowed it take on a new swing.. a swing I find very sexy and sensual for myself.. I've dyed my hair a color I've always wanted to try but never had the nerve.. it's all so new, all so adventurous, and all so romantic to my thought system..

I've tried taking make up tutorials on line, and love it all.  I've spent hours watching videos on 100 ways to wear a scarf, how to walk in heels.  In essence, I put my desires out there in a community for which I wanted to find myself.. and I interact with the ladies that make the videos, talk with them, get a feel for their essence and style.. I love it.. it's womanly comradery.. at it's best! 

And, Men can do this too.. they can put themselves out there.  Get a feel for what or who they like that they aren't yet.. begin to interact and find that there are those men who will encourage this love affair you've always wanted.. married or not! 

In short, the language and style is somewhere being presented.. we need to go look for it, find it and learn from it.. as long as it fits us to a perfect fit from down deep inside.. in that silent space of our soul that seldom gets heard..

So, here's a video of women in panty hose and heels.  Yes, I'll be misunderstood because I have added this video, but, I'm going to do it anyway.  Women feel different, act different, are different when they are feminine. . .  personally, I don't wear heels this high, I tend toward 3" heels, but I love the black and the shine, and have added this look to my wardrobe.. I love the panty hose with the runner in the back, I've added 3 mm flat-back stones to the toes of my panty hose for the times I take off my heels and I've shortened my skirt/dress length just a bit and/or I wear a long shirt.. floor length.  Never again a skirt that comes to the middle of my legs.. it's just not sexy and/or sensual for me..

I don't know when or why this type of woman went out of style, and the sports female in.. but it's not a good idea.  Sport bras, sports cloths, etc have a place and time, yes.. but not in romance.

In This video below.. I love the leg look.. it's romantic for me as a woman.  No the dress length is not my style, but the moves of the leg is.  For me, I think I'd add a little to the skirt length, but leave the top of the dress.. so, in essence, what I'm saying is this.. check out what you like and feel as you.. add to or take away but get the feel for what's right about your love and romance language. 

You'll have to seek it out!  Usually, it won't seek you out, because as of now, it's all hidden in you.  You haven't allowed anything about this side of your nature to be or become alive to the public population yet.. so go seek and you may find out there's a whole world of exploration waiting just for you..

For me, In the video below, I'd add a ladies hand bag to my dress..  and sit still, enjoy my coffee and my new found freedom as a very beautiful female.. all females are beautiful, as with males.. they are sexy to us when presented rightfully so..

As I said, you have to seek it out!  Each one of us will have to seek out that look and feel for which we know lays deep down inside of our heart and soul.  By doing so, we begin to speak, write, walk and display a whole new language of romantic love that fits our desires and dreams.  It may not be just like each individual tutorial you take, but you can mix and match, add your own take, and experiment with your style.. it's a whole new world ladies and gentlemen..

Hair, make up, nails, heels, scarves, perfume, jewelry, body glimmer, -  all romantic aditions to our real style.  If we've been a five-minute girl in the past, that's all over ladies..

Now, we sit up and take notice and begin to dig deep into those places that fit our need for romantic flair and romantic dating..

(Never use teeth to open a hair pin)  Always learn to unlearn bad habits ladies..

So, this man agrees with what I've already said.. when a woman looks at a man, and hears his voice, it's all over if it's a match.  I'm not saying I like the psychology aspect of this video.. but, that's me.  I am saying, that men have to dig deep too.. they have to learn to talk to a woman on a level other than sex alone... it's imparitive.

When women STOP being 'booty calls'.. men will have no choice.. but as long as a woman will settle for a booty call, men will turn a deaf ear!  That being said, I am a believer in the power of womanhood too.  It's not that I'm confusing the issues here.  Women need to be sexy, alluring for themselves while being a full-woman in all ways.  And, that excludes 'booty calls' .. that goes for wives too. not just single women.  Wives can be just as much a booty call as a single woman can be.  Wives can turn a deaf ear to the shall I say.. seduction of their own husbands.. and that is a travesty.